LOVE IS NOT A BODY SHAPE
Loving and committing to someone that isn’t the normal body shape is difficult. I can admit it. The media wants you to seek love from a woman that looks like Tyra Banks because she defines ‘black beauty.’ Not too dark to make TV seem racist towards black women with strong black complexions, and not too abiding to size zero and the skinny look.
The problem that exists in society, beyond the skin tone, is human being’s inability to love a woman regardless of her size. It seems like if a woman looks normal, she is eating too much. If she is skinny and size zero, we like her but can’t seem to understand why she can’t eat a burger. If she is fat, we believe she is plain ugly.
We haven’t even heard the woman speak yet we have already put her into the category of ‘We can’t love you but we can be friends.’ That’s a bit retarded, don’t you think?
Some women are very intellectual but are slightly overweight. Some women are skinny, don’t like eating, and can’t hold a conversation. Some women are curvy but hide their true inner character because they don’t have enough confidence to feel beautiful.
Love isn’t about size. It is about accepting a person for who they are. It is about getting to know the individual. Yes, looks are important but if you judge a woman based on a cosmetic advert you saw on TV that had a skinny, fair skinned, blue eyed white girl, you’re most likely going to like that kind of woman compared to a woman that has chubby thighs, slightly big arms and a pretty smile, with a genuine heart.
Let’s look at some different types of women in society.
Model Girl: Ideal girl. Maybe doesn’t eat but looks “perfect.” Lots of guys like her.
Overweight Girl: She has a character, but do you notice it or just see her weight? She isn’t afraid of serving seconds. Most people avoid her.
Normal Girl: You see women like her everywhere. She eats food and doesn’t shy away to fit societal pressures. She is the independent woman living her life fully.
Where Did You Find Her (Exotic Girl)?
Love comes down to confidence. The ability to love someone and accept a person for who they are. I have learned to love women of all shapes and sizes. I am not afraid to put plus size, chubby, thin, and slim girls on my blog at the same time. Some people don’t like it, but the essence to not care and still do it, makes me feel like I am just expressing my true self.
What is stopping you from doing the same?
D.O.
